All of the events in our lives lead to other events, they are all connected.

I stole this from the Daily Om. They always have great things to read. I really enjoyed this one. You can check them out at Dailyom.com

Sometimes we have an experience that we don’t understand, but if we look deeply, or wait long enough, a reason for that experience will usually reveal itself. All the events in our lives lead to other events, and all that we have manifested in this present moment is the result of past events and experiences. We cannot easily tease apart the many threads that have been woven together to create our current reality. Experiences that don’t make sense, as well as any that we regret, are just as responsible for the good things in our lives as the experiences we do understand or label as “good.”

This is especially important to remember at times when we feel directionless or unsure of what to do. It is often at times like these that we take a job or move to a place without really knowing if it’s the right thing to do. We may ultimately end up leaving the job or the place, but often during that time we will have met someone who becomes an important friend, or we may have an experience that changes us in a profound way. When all the pieces of our life don’t quite make sense, we can remember that there may be some hidden gem of a reason that we are where we are having the experiences we are having.

It’s fun to look back on past experiences with an eye to uncovering those gems—the dreadful temporary job in a bland office building that introduced you to the love of your life; the roommate you couldn’t tolerate who gave you a book that changed your life; the time spent living in a city you didn’t like that led you into a deeper relationship with yourself. Remembering these past experiences can restore our faith in the present. Life is full of buried treasures. Chances are, you’re sitting on some right now.

What Do We Really Have to Lose?

     So many of us are afraid of losing the people in our lives. Family, friends and lovers all fall into this category. We devote our time and energy into relationships with these people. We become close with them and create a bond. Somewhere during the growth of the relationship, we begin to think of that person as "ours".
That's "MY friend", "MY boyfriend/girlfriend", or "MY sister/brother". These are just words that we say, but somehow they create a subconscious possession of the person in question. The intensity of the possession varies. Sometimes it's minimal (usually with family members and friends) and sometimes it can get out of hand (usually with romantic relationships).
     This starts to happen at an early age. As children we don't want to share our mother or our father with anyone else. They belong to us and no one else can have them. Sometimes it stops there, but then we might acquire a great friend. They're there for us through thick and thin, but all of a sudden, someone else might come along and interfere, trying to take away OUR friend. We feel threatened when we see the people that "belong" to us, talking, having fun with, or giving more attention to someone other then us.
     Why is this? What is the cure?
Recognize that NO ONE belongs to us. Each person is their own person. They have the right to their own feelings, their own decisions, and their own life. Just as we have the right to ours.
If someone chooses to make us a part of their life, then great! We should feel honored. If they choose not to make us a part of their life or give more attention elsewhere, nothing is lost, because, as stated before, they were never ours to lose.
     Of course, the loss of companionship that you felt with the person may be difficult to initially handle, that is not the point I wish to make.
The point is, you can't lose something that you never had and no one belongs to us, just as we don't belong to anyone. If we could all accept this fact, think about how much easier relationships would be.
So, take a step back and appreciate the people around you. They choose to share parts of their life with you as you choose to share part of yours with them. Recognize that they may not always be around and that all you have with them is now.